3 ideas suddenly came to mind…

As we enter into our 3rd month with the children stuck at home and parents possibly going nuts already, or trying super hard to stay sane, (and heaven knows how much longer this is going to persist…hopefully shorter, if HK’s infection numbers stop continuing to rise, or anywhere else, for that matter), I’d like to share a beautifully written passage (don’t know who wrote it, but how insightful and also sad the situation is)…and also 3 ideas that suddenly came into my mind for families.  This is a precious period where the opportunity for families to spend time together for extended periods of time that may not come again, and it’s even more precious because your children are young, and they grow up too fast. So, to maximise the chances that they will still want to be close to you when they are older, take full advantage of this time to do some of these things.

First of all, here is the passage I came across:

“We fell asleep in one world, and woke up in another.

Suddenly Disney is out of magic,
Paris is no longer romantic,
New York doesn’t stand up anymore,
the Chinese wall is no longer a fortress, and Mecca is empty.

Hugs & kisses suddenly become weapons, and not visiting parents & friends becomes an act of love.

Suddenly you realise that power, beauty & money are worthless, and can’t get you the oxygen you’re fighting for.

The world continues its life and it is beautiful. It only puts humans in cages. I think it’s sending us a message:

“You are not necessary. The air, earth, water and sky without you are fine. When you come back, remember that you are my guests. Not my masters.”

The three ideas I have, which the family can actually do together, are: 

  1. Goal setting

  2. Meditation

  3. An indoors workout routine

These are all healthy and great bonding activities for parents to do with their children. Just switch on any workout you like on Youtube and do the workout together in your living room! Meditation is awesome for everyone to spend time together doing, even for 5 minutes. It does the body, mind and spirit good. Especially under the present circumstances, it can give adults some real down-time to just breathe into calmness and quiet, and believe it or not, your kids will eventually develop more calmness, focus and discipline too! (Schools in San Francisco that have implemented meditation into their daily school routine have seen decreased absences, bad behaviour, and better results! You can Google about this!)

Goal setting is actually something we all should do, because without specific goals, we will just drift through life, letting it just ‘happen’ to us, like a boat without a sail that will just drift where the sea takes it. If you want successful children, goal-setting should be one of their habits. Since parents have so much time with the children now, why not all sit together and create some goals together as a family, and also as individuals? It will be a sweet time of mutual discovery! They can be goals for the week, the month, and perhaps even for the year.

I once attended a mentoring programme and the mentor had coined a cute term, ‘auto-magically’…not ‘automatically, but MAGICally! (His name is Raymond Aaron) He said that when you write down your goals, somehow, they happen ‘auto-magically’. Sometimes we may set a goal that we have no idea how we’re going to achieve, because the means may not be available yet. But even in my own experience, I found him to be correct.  Most often, if you commit the goal in writing, somehow, somewhere, the Universe will bring your means to you, and then you realise that you CAN achieve it after all! Share this word ‘Auto-MAGICally’ with your children, I’m sure they will think it’s cool. You may have to explain ‘automatically’ first if they don’t know this word yet.

Anyway, of course, one has to put in the effort, and also for each goal, write down the 1st action step to take, because again, sometimes we have no idea how we’ll get there, but we can only see the next step if we take the first step! It’s like climbing up a mountain whose top half is covered in fog, so you cannot see the peak (goal), but if you start ascending, you will only see the next step as you take a step. Remember to book follow-up meetings to see how everyone is doing with their goals! Oh yes, and this is a great opportunity for parents to guide your children in their self-planning and self-regulation (a skill which I find many children don’t have at all, because they are so used to having everything planned for them!) You may include a component for them to check themselves against, to see if they are on the right track towards their goals.

So, I hope these are some suggestions that can give you guys quality time to spend together and away from screens (since I think you may feel that the children are already spending too much time on their screens, given that schools need to stay in touch with them via online means.) Until next time!

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