Winning or losing?

As adults taking care of young children, there are so many points in their development when we find the need to ‘tune’ them to the right mindset along the way. It’s very challenging. Parenting is a responsibility that cannot be taken lightly indeed. I was playing a game with a student one day, and after a few rounds of alternate winning and losing, she declared that she wanted me to win. I asked her why, and she said she likes to lose, so that the game could go on. I don’t know where she got the idea that if she won, the game would have to stop. Anyway, the point is, there are children who hate losing so much that they would rather not play than risk losing. Or they would have a meltdown if they lost a game. But this recent encounter with someone who preferred to lose was a new one for me. For those who hate losing, we have to teach them to accept that they will not always win, by letting them practise losing. But for someone who likes to lose? Is it really because she just wants to keep playing, or is there more than meets the eye? Are there hidden self-confidence issues? Or is it just a matter that at home when she plays games with family, once she wins, it’s the welcome opportunity for the adults to pack it in, so in order to keep playing, she must keep losing? Or, am I just reading too much into this? But I think you get the drift…there are often situations that raise flags like these throughout a child’s growth that can cause worry. It’s really not easy being parents indeed, barring the need to provide basic physical necessities. I salute all the parents who are dedicated to their children’s overall well-being and upbringing, because there is sooo much to remain conscious of.

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